tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14940570.post945520921490483204..comments2024-02-10T18:02:21.202-06:00Comments on Fresh-Cut Flowers: SWCLesleehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04949872709953861128noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14940570.post-3202367624344902872006-12-18T17:20:00.000-06:002006-12-18T17:20:00.000-06:00There are no passive people in my home...and we di...There are no passive people in my home...and we did have a SWC. Our belief is; consistenancy tempered with love. And from your post, you obviously have that!Funky-Redheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09340435797037162535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14940570.post-56650914391887679982006-12-16T13:50:00.000-06:002006-12-16T13:50:00.000-06:00To be honest, I don't much like the Dobson books.
...To be honest, I don't much like the Dobson books.<br /><br />I have strong-willed children -- and I am a strong-willed person myself. I think a strong will is a really good thing to have.<br /><br />My advice (and I learned this years ago while teaching seventh grade) is this: Don't get into control battles with a strong-willed child. You will end up losing. As soon as a situation becomes a battle of wills, you've lost. You need to plan ahead and avoid those kind of battles. (Yes, I know that that is easier said than done.)<br /><br />With my four kids, for instance, I've never told them when to do their homework. I always made homework THEIR RESPONSIBILITY, not mine. Boy in Black, for instance, did not do homework all through first grade because he said it was busy work. He was right -- it was busy work. So I shrugged and let that be his decision. <br /><br />If one of my kids let their homework go and didn't do it, I let them just get a bad grade. I figured they could accept the consequences.<br /><br />My two oldest kids both graduated from high school valedictorian despite having a mother who never once told them to do homework -- but most importantly, they learned that doing schoolwork is their own responsibility.<br /><br />I disagree with the advice about being really rigid with saying "no."<br /><br />Sometimes I would tell one of my kids "no" for something and they would come up with a logical reason why I should yes. So of course I would listen to what they said and change my mind. I think sometimes parents get so worried about being perceived as pushovers that they don't listen respectfully to their kids. Listening to your kids is fall more important than sticking stubbornly to a decision.<br /><br />Other parents used to be horrified at my low-key method of parenting (telling me I should be the "parent" and the person in control) but my oldest two kids are now 20 and 18 and have turned into wonderful adults, so people no longer criticize me ....jo(e)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01488562158252331555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14940570.post-69585915659442667432006-12-16T10:16:00.000-06:002006-12-16T10:16:00.000-06:00Child abuse? What part of that was child abuse?Child abuse? What part of that was child abuse?Lesleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04949872709953861128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14940570.post-76631416836479569532006-12-16T09:50:00.000-06:002006-12-16T09:50:00.000-06:00Wait a minute there.
Stop the presses.
First you ...Wait a minute there.<br />Stop the presses.<br /><br />First you rag on me, then you tell a fairytale about perfect mothers which ends in child abuse?<br /><br />I'm calling the cops lady...<br /><br />Hep! Po-leeeeece!!!!!!!Whistle Britcheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01896698165547735903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14940570.post-23903226505081739212006-12-15T08:51:00.000-06:002006-12-15T08:51:00.000-06:00When Derik was about 9 months old, we were at the ...When Derik was about 9 months old, we were at the dr's office. After about 5 minutes, Doc started telling me about this book that I really should read. It's the same one badoozie mentioned.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12431745987946206935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14940570.post-69213148330013117052006-12-14T18:29:00.000-06:002006-12-14T18:29:00.000-06:00Oh. my. goodness. Are you telling the story of OU...Oh. my. goodness. Are you telling the story of OUR house?Suzy-Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03160021278644336665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14940570.post-22362414282236572672006-12-14T16:14:00.000-06:002006-12-14T16:14:00.000-06:00ok...I am now scared sh*tless of having children.
...ok...I am now scared sh*tless of having children.<br /><br />I think I was most definately a SWC.Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17131011667990422886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14940570.post-69301988096342539462006-12-14T12:01:00.000-06:002006-12-14T12:01:00.000-06:00OKAY, OKAY, FINE
what Badoozer said.<i>OKAY, OKAY, FINE</i><br /><br />what Badoozer said.Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10686252445732624786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14940570.post-19483178669960584312006-12-14T12:00:00.000-06:002006-12-14T12:00:00.000-06:00I see Badoozer up there being all smart and PhD li...I see Badoozer up there being all smart and PhD like.<br /><br />As if Badoozer knows anything about being strong-willed...<i>oh wait...</i>Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10686252445732624786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14940570.post-8949365331976200842006-12-13T17:04:00.000-06:002006-12-13T17:04:00.000-06:00Mmm, yes, I think I've met a SWC. Just maybe. ;-)
...Mmm, yes, I think I've met a SWC. Just maybe. ;-)<br /><br />We're working from the food allergy angle, and finding it makes quite a difference. Udo's Oil, not just working for mine, but my friend whose child hasn't tantrumed in the six weeks she's been taking it. Not expensive, and it's healthy whether it "works" for the behaviour issue or not.<br /><br />Good luck. Lots of fun, huh?Madcaphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08966173518099250557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14940570.post-4004902511606569002006-12-13T15:16:00.000-06:002006-12-13T15:16:00.000-06:00Thanks for your support. Some days are just bette...Thanks for your support. Some days are just better then others.Lesleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04949872709953861128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14940570.post-57988811423708735912006-12-13T12:15:00.000-06:002006-12-13T12:15:00.000-06:00As the mother of a 19 yr. old SWC, I agree with ev...As the mother of a 19 yr. old SWC, I agree with everything susiebadoozie wrote. Do Not Give In, Do Not Give Up. My son is studying Criminal Justice in college, he wants to become a law enforcement officer, and his strong will, attitude and confidence will serve him well. You will get through this, and all of you will win.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14940570.post-33617590423393162312006-12-13T10:02:00.000-06:002006-12-13T10:02:00.000-06:00wellllllll
you've of course read the dr. dobson bo...wellllllll<br />you've of course read the dr. dobson books, and so you know parents of SWC have to be on their toes, think on their feet, and never go to battle unless your prepared to die on the hill. so you did the right thing, and i'm betting you will continue to do the right thing. the problem comes when the parents of the SWC are passive, pushovers. and sounds like your not. so keep plugging away, because trust me, if you don't get control of it now, it will get worse.<br /><br />never say no, and then take it back. think carefully before you answer a request, because if they find a chink in your armor, your done for. parents who say no, and then change their minds and give in are basically telling their kid that no does not mean no. but by gosh, in our house? if i say no? i mean no, and i'm not bending. i don't care how petty the request is. in that case, i have never had a child who threw a fit in the store ever. never. here in recent times, he has begun to challenge me more, but he knows when i'm down, and he knows when i'm in a weakened emotional state, so when they start to get more intuitive, they take advantage of that. i need to get my act together and get back on track. <br /><br />you will win, i know itAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com