Monday, May 29, 2006

A Long Weekend

I didn't get much done this weekend. I didn't plan on doing much, but there were a few things here and there that I would've liked to have done. Yesterday afternoon my friend Not-So-Shy showed up at out back door. She came in and plopped down on the living room floor next to me and was obviously upset.

Almost seven years ago Nickel moved me to this town of strangers. He and Not-So-Shy had been friends for many years so we naturally hit it off. For years we were inseparable but one weekend we had a difference of opinions. This difference resulted in over a year of not talking to each other. It was a very hard time for me, and probably her too. Then after some painful circumstances in my life I reached back out to her. At first we were both pretty gun shy. 'Don't get so close and you won't get hurt again' was both our motto, but we managed to reconnect. She and I have never been quite as close as we were, but that's fine. We get together and gossip from time to time. She has her friends, some I know, and I have my friends.

To have her show up at my house yesterday in tears, I knew something was wrong. She cried, I hugged. She talked, I listened. I didn't try to fix her problems. I didn't try to bash the man who had hurt her heart. I spoke and asked questions as things got confusing and offered tissues. My heart breaks for her. She spent about 6 or 7 hours here last night trying to figure things out. Of her three closest friends two weren't returning her phone calls and one was out of town but on her way back. She didn't know where else to go. She came back today, still heartbroken. Again, I tried to just be there for her. We went to the mall and walked around, got some coffee and talked. She's talking things over with her man now. I hope everything works out for her.

So I spent my weekend consoling my friend. What did you do?

6 comments:

madcapmum said...

Relationships are funny creatures, that's for sure. You never know which will survive and which will thrive, or which you lose by the roadside. I'm glad you found your way back to walking together.

I shivered with a fever this weekend, did a little weeding, fantasized about fabric. And that was it, my deario.

Badoozie said...

i'm nervous for you. you sound like a really good friend, and one who deserves to be treated well. i sure hope she is not just using you for a "default" since the other ones were unavailable. i guess you'll find out soon enough, when YOU have a problem and call her. sorry to be a wet blanket but if i had a buck for every "friend" who just came around when they needed something i'd be a rich woman.

but then again, it was a blessing for you to be there for someone who was hurting, so its a toss up...

Cindy said...

I have a friend like that. We're both really cautious about having a relationship now. It gets better as time goes on.

What I did this weekend...I worked on the rent house, cleaned my house and did laundry, rescued my brother and family from the side of the road where their vehicle gave up the ghost, and then chose to work on Monday.

Leslee said...

Susie, bless your heart for watching out for me! Rest assured my eyes are open and I'm trying to be a friend to her right now when she feels like she has no one else. Later when her life goes back in it's own direction I'll be fine, I'm not expecting the world to revolve around our friendship anymore!

HeyJules said...

Hmmm...what did I do this weekend? I wrote my testimony, re-wrote my testimony, edited and proofread my testimony and, finally, POSTED my testimony. Yep, it's done!

Met with my mentee from church and had a 3.5 hour conversation about God and faith and religion and then met a woman from my church who sings in the choir and had ANOTHER 3.5 hour conversation about God and faith and religion.

It was a great weekend!!!

Ayatollah Mugsy said...

I took a nap, ministered to the neighborhood ducks, and then took another nap.