Tuesday, June 13, 2006

Clicks

I work for a wonderful church, but even working for a church can have it's down sides. The work is easy and atomsphere is relaxed, maybe a little too relaxed.

I was thinking about high school just yesterday. A conversation with a friend sparked a memory about this boy I was so "in love" with. Ha! I didn't know what love really was. But that's not my point. My point is, even though I miss highschool, because I actually had a lot of fun, there are somethings I don't miss one bit. One of them, PE, I've been exercising more and my own schedule and at my own pace, but I don't miss PE class. Where you get sweaty at 10 am then have 5 minutes to take a shower, get re-dressed, fix your hair AND makeup, and if it's picture day you might as well call in sick for third hour.

Another thing I don't miss about highschool is the Clicks. You know what I'm talking about, those five or six girls that were cheerleaders and wouldn't talk to you unless you had the answers to 5th hour's English assignment that they forgot to do. Yeah, I pretty much loathed those girls. There were boy clicks too, the "I'm too hot to date you" boys for example. I didn't like them either. But I thought after highschool those clicks would end.

College started out great. I miss those days actually. There were new people to meet, new places to go, and new things to do. Suddenly, all that other crap just faded away. There were still clicks, they were renamed "Fraternities and Sororities" but I didn't notice them as much. After I dropped out, got married, and moved far far away from home I thought, I'm too old to be around the clicks that haunted me from age 5-18. Boy, was I wrong. I work with 8 other people. EIGHT. Yeah, you read that right. And I still have to deal with clicks. But now, there's just two to four people in the clicks and if for some reason they don't want you to be part of the group, then you're not part of the group. I just wish these people, who are my age, would grow up already. I did. It's not that hard, nor is it that bad.

I'm starting to wonder if it's a Mommy thing. I have a kid, obviously, and they don't. Does the fact that you want everyone to be part of the group (especially when there is only 8 to the actual group) come from squirting another human life out of your body? I could tell you a story about the click here at work, but I don't want to waste the space.

Paul tells us in Galatians 5:14, "The entire law is summed up in a single command: "Love your neighbor as yourself." I'm going to attempt to apply this to my life. I pray they grow up someday soon.

9 comments:

Jackie said...

There will always be clicks. I wish there weren't, but I've come to the conclustion that there will always be people who feel the need to "be higher" then others and make themselves more important by being in "the group".

Sad but true.

Badoozie said...

i'm totally with you on this. i have been to a couple of different churches here in my town, and i did not fit in with any of the "clicks" and the fact there WERE clicks at church shocked me and upset me. so, yes i can relate.

and in highschool it was really bad. i NEVER got picked first for any of the good gangs.

Sally said...

Clicks can be so hurtful and destructive- I'll join you in that prayer!

enid enigma said...

Leslee - Yep, you're right! It is different when you have "squirted a kid" and they haven't. But let me tell ya - you oughta try being a Divorced Mom and at a Christian School, no less~! Talk about getting the cold shoulder! I always felt like something was "showing" or sticking out, does that make sense? So glad I was able to hold my head up high and remind myself of how GREAT God thought I was - Guess that's the 2nd part of your verse you mentioned - Gotta know your "greatness" in order to esteem them...What a bummer, huh!

HEY! You can be in my click Anyday!!

Jenn said...

I went to Christian school and we did not have showers. After gym we just smelled.

There was one major girl click which I was never allowed into because the click leader made it very clear I was not welcome.

Looking back now, I realize I had a lot more fun with my (non-click) best friend than those girls ever had... not only that but we are still close to this day, something I know is not true of those superficial click girls.

SingingOwl said...

Grinning at you all and remember high school...and I graduated in 1968.

And the word is "clique." :-D

Leslee said...

You're so right SingingOwl. I knew that it didn't quite look right, but didn't take the time to figure it out. Thank you. And thank you for visiting. You're always welcome!

Pilot Mom said...

Isn't that sad, Leslee that there are cliques in a church? When I worked I always liked to work with all men, with myself being the only female. It really made life much easier and much more fun.

Aunt Jo said...

you know what is sad is that when you see these clique-ish people they will act like they were your best friend! once we got out of school, they lost all their appeal and I saw them for what they really are.....regular people.

as for church cliques....oh yea. i am TOTALLY turned off by that behavior and will run away from it every chance i get.